Remembering others

I was reminded just now of how difficult the first Christmas season after the loss of a loved one can be.  Christmas is a time of celebration and family get togethers, traditions and memories, laughter and fun; but, to one who is grieving at this time of year, all that Christmas cheer often punctuates the pain of loss.

I remember the first Thanksgiving, the first Christmas, the first Father's Day after my dad died.  Those holidays felt strangely set apart, as if nothing would ever seem "right" again.  With time, that keen sense of loss was replaced by comforting memories.

So, take a minute right now and think about the people in your life who are feeling as though nothing will ever seem right again.  And then write a note, pray for them, make a phone call--connect.  Don't feel you have to solve anything.  You can't.  Just be a friend.

Comments

[connie @ Practicing Theology]

Thanks for this kind reminder--this is my first holiday season without my dad. My mother is doing pretty well, but we're working extra hard to make sure she is included in special events and gatherings. I realized several days ago, as I was composing our 'Family Christmas Letter', that the loss is still quite fresh as tears suddenly came upon me--I'm not typically a 'crier'.

[Mummymac]

Ditto: this is the first Christmas without my mother.

Like Connie it seems all your energy goes in making sure the spouse is well catered for.

Thanks for the reminder Kim.